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Much of what we believe
and feel about authority comes from our childhoold. Where
we learned to defer, to withhold, to please, (and some of
us, to rebel). In families that often embody an
authoritarian culture where everyone is either one-up or
one-down from us. |
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We seem to learn to
comply when we are 2-5 years old. And then perhaps get
our voice back in high school when we learn to yell back.
But this can lead to reacting against, as John Cougar
Mellenkamp sings, "I fight authority and authority
always wins." |
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As a result, much of
what we believe and feel about authority is amorphous,
cloudy, unclear, untested. When we test these rules and
fears, we are surprised to find we had greater freedom
than we thought. |
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Many of us work hard to
avoid falling into the dynamic we had with authority as
children. But we are still triggered in the old ways
about issues that really matter to us. And our identities
are often still tied up with getting authority's
approval. |
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Many of us have
mistrustful, negative feelings toward authority. Based on
memories of being unsupported, of authority as abuse of
power, of being told "you can't". But we find
healing in learning how to ebb and flow WITH authority,
rather than defering or rebelling. |
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Themes
